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Introducting Date Magazine

admin — Tue, 17 May 2011 08:32:06 +0000

We are offering our members and readers exclusive access to Date
magazine, an online magazine all about online dating. Check it out
below:

The Real Cost Of Dating

admin — Wed, 04 May 2011 13:56:44 +0000

This interesting infographic shows the real cost of going on an actual date:

http://www.coolinfographics.com/blog/2011/5/2/the-real-cost-of-dating.html

Yes this is for Americans, but it shows how inexpensive an online
dating membership is compared to a single date! And considering you
can meet and get to know tens (or even hundreds) of eligible singles
for less than the cost of a date, it’s a no-brainer.

Write E-Mails Like A Pro

admin — Tue, 03 May 2011 11:56:11 +0000

So basically, you’ve covered the whole nine yards: well-written
profile = CHECK! Great profile picture = CHECK! Awesome tagline =
CHECK! Now, the next question you must answer before or during finding
your uniform date is, what should my e-mails be like?

Now, some people regard e-mails as something informal, so they don’t
really watch out for their grammar or construction. But this isn’t so.
Actually, I find it a turn-off when a person has bad grammar in their
e-mails to me, it’s a minus point, and I think that a lot of people
think the same way I do.

Okay, so as an unwritten rule, it is considered best for both parties
that your communication be kept within e-mails for the first few days.
In that way, you can get to know each other in a more impersonal way
and you can organize your thoughts better.

In finding your dream match, the key is communication. The more you
communicate, the more likely your chance to find exciting dates. And
as with most of the things in this world, e-mails are also governed by
a set of rules and manners, which are known as netiquettes or e-mail
etiquette’s. Here are some of them:

1. Guard your privacy. Your privacy and that of your loved ones should
always come first, so you must keep privacy foremost in your mind.
Never give your personal e-mail address, home landline number, or your
home address. Consider it paranoid, but it is always better to be safe
than be sorry.

2. Be yourself. Do not be a fake or a poser. Your main goal is to
start dating that can be your soul mate for a lifetime, so do not try
to be someone you are not. You should market yourself, and not someone
that you are making out to be. Because the singles would want to know
you, the real you.

3. Ask and answer questions. Taking time to answer their questions
means that you are showing them that you are making an effort, and by
asking some questions back, then you are also showing that you are
willing to get to know them better. This also opens up channels of
communication and invites more exchange or e-mails.

4. Be responsive. Be prompt. If you like the person e-mailing you,
then go ahead and reply. If not, then ignore the message. If you are
the one waiting for a reply, if the person you sent an e-mail to has
not replied for several days, then chances are, they aren’t ready to
communicate yet. But don’t worry! There are other singles out there
who are just waiting to hear from you!

So open up those channels of communication and get ready to have the
time of your life!

New Profile Pages!

admin — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 07:21:14 +0000

We’ve added some new features to the profile pages and has been seeing a fantastic response. Everyone loves them!

Here’s a short list of the new features:

Member Introduction:
A short overview of the member is now presented at the top of the page, detailing their name, age, location, what they’re looking for, their distance from you and whether they’re online or not.

Photo Gallery:
Conveniently browse member photos from within a profile with the all new Member Photo Gallery. Move forward and back through a members photos and zoom when you want to see more detail.

Status Commenting:
When a member updates their status with something interesting you can now send a comment.

Instant Requests:
Send instant requests for more details such as photos or profile text.

Come online:
The member you are viewing isn’t online? Send a request to come online and chat.

Similar Members:
View similar members to the profile you are viewing from right within a profile page, providing a quick and easy way to browse through members.

Random Member:
Can’t find the right person? then try the new random member button.

More information:
We’ve added even more info about the member into the profile page, you can now view photos, diary entries and videos all from the one page.

Clearer Layout:
Even with all the information we have added we still have a cleaner, clearer layout.

Popular Actions:
We’ve moved popular actions such as ‘Send a Message’, ‘Send a Wink’ and ‘Add to Favourites’ into more prominent, clearer locations.

Inline Messaging:
Having an in depth conversation with someone you like? You can now send and reply to messages right from their profile page.

Message Preview:
See a preview of the last message you have received from a member right from their profile page.

Why don’t you login and have a look yourself?

Memorable Online Dating Profiles

admin — Tue, 05 Oct 2010 00:25:30 +0000

Online dating profiles are the equivalent of meeting someone in person in terms of representing yourself and what it is that you are interested in.

Experts agree that keeping it simple and being honest are two of the most important factors in creating a profile. But creating a power profile takes more than that, David DeAngelo, author of the program Meeting Women Online says that your profile is like a “vending machine, put in the right location where there are hungry people going by, and it can make you money 24/7.”

Your Online dating profile acts in the same way, and David’s program offers years of experience and proven techniques on creating profiles that get constant attention, as well as other winning strategies for dramatically improving your Online dating response rate.

Remember what your parents taught you about first impressions? It still matters online.

You do not have to be Earnest Hemmingway when writing a profile, but obvious spelling errors make you look lazy – a definite turn-off to women.

You really want to make sure that you can present yourself in the best possible light, while maintaining the honesty and sincerity of who you are. There is no sense in creating a false image of yourself if you are serious about eventually making the transition from online dating to offline meetings.

1. Create a Positive Self Image

Avoid using negative wording, such as hate, not, never, etc.

As obvious as this may seem, many online profiles are filled with negative statements that are naturally overlooked by potential partners who aren’t interested in getting involved with someone who has a negative outlook on life.

By focusing on positive reflections and phrasing, you will be able to create an appealing profile that attracts a large number of possible mates, as well as ensuring that the people who contact you are equally as positive.

Example of positive versus negative phrasing:

Positive: ‘I prefer women who love the outdoors”.

Negative: ‘I hate women who never like to go outside.’

2. Describing Yourself

When it comes to summarizing your likes, dislikes, and essentially who you are, you want to describe yourself in the most appealing way possible, while once again, being honest.

Balance this out by showcasing your interests, and describing why you’d make a great partner, while avoiding coming across as someone who is egotistical or self involved.

Confidence is exceptionally attractive but you need to make sure that you are approachable, and that those reviewing your profile will feel that they could be comfortable with you.

3. Be Memorable

When it comes to online dating, there are literally thousands, if not millions of profiles available online. You need to make sure yours stands out in a positive way.

The more information you can provide about yourself and you’re your lifestyle, the better.

Instead of summarizing your interests, take the time to provide a thorough, detailed overview of what you are all about. Use creative wording and detailed phrasing so that you can give people a real, solid idea of who you are.

Example: Rather than simply stating that you like music, describe the exact type of music you like, as well as specific artists or genres.

The same goes for sports, hobbies or other interests.

The more detailed you are, the more likely you’re your profile will receive a lot of exposure and attention from potential mates who would rather contact someone who isn’t afraid to provide a lot of information about themselves, versus those with very short profiles that fail to offer useful information.

4. Keep Your Profile Updated

Once you create your profile, you will want to make sure that should your situation change, you update your information accordingly.

Since many online dating sites will display the date of the last log in as well as the last time the profile was modified, keeping it fresh and updated will show that you are still actively involved in the dating community, and are still looking for potential partners.

5. Keep it Simple

Keeping your profile on target and focused is extremely important. While you want to provide as much information about yourself as you feel comfortable with, you also want to avoid running off with long paragraphs or repetitive phrasing.

Since people tend to skim over profiles that are too lengthy, you need to balance out providing enough information to attract interest with ensuring that it doesn’t take the reader a lot of time to digest the information you’re offering.

6. Take Your Time With Your Profile

If you are serious about finding potential mates online, you need to take time when creating your profile. The most successful online dating members have spent hours tweaking their profiles over the course of their time participating within the communities.

Remember, your profile is the single most important element in regards to your online dating account, as it is the digital representation of who you are.

This is where people find you, decide to contact you, or skip you over simply because someone else has taken the time to craft a more detailed, entertaining and useful profile page.

Consistently update your profile as you find time. Add in new photos of yourself, and do your best to keep it interesting, light and of course, informative.

If you struggle creating your profile, spend some time browsing through the community and looking over other profiles to help you become familiar with the profile layout, as well as be able to generate fresh ideas on what you should include and perhaps, what should be left out.

A well through out, carefully planned profile shows, and will maximize your chances of finding that perfect partner.

7. Photos Are Very Important

Looks may not be everything, but the fact of the matter is Profiles without pictures just do not get the kind of traffic that those with pictures do, according to match.com women are 8.5 times more likely to look at your profile if it has your snapshot.

And members in general with photos get up to 15 times more overall attention than those without one. But you picture doesn’t have to be formal.

Remember this is not a job interview; we are out here to have FUN. Don’t be afraid to be a little whimsical and show your humorous side, but don’t be too silly or goofy as that can turn some women off.

The number one rule when it comes to posting a picture on your profile is to just be sure to use one that is an honest representative of your real looks so there are “no surprises” in real life.

Most Online experts agree not to choose a photo that is overtly sexual or provocative, (unless of course that is what you are looking for, on one of the adult sites we talked about).

It is better to err on the side of being conservative, you can always post something a little sexier later if you desire, but it’s hard to take back something that may have made the wrong initial impression.

Why online dating works

admin — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 12:16:44 +0000

The fact that so many people choose online dating over traditional dating signifies that falling in love with somebody online has a number of advantages.

Why does online dating work? How does it differ from traditional romantic experiences? Everybody knows that online dating adds a degree of comfort and security that no other form of dating can bring.

Several characteristics make online dating a viable option, which can turn into the real thing. Internet differs significantly from direct communication. Its features result in various advantages of online dating.

Higher comfort level

When using dating websites, people are comfortably sitting at home, in their favorite chair. Internet dating provides a degree of comfort and certainty that makes it preferable over traditional dating for many people.

Approaching someone in real life is associated to fear and some degree of anxiety. The virtual reality minimizes these unpleasant feelings. If it fails working, an individual is free to simply move on.

Getting to know each other before meeting

Online dating allows people to get to know each other better than any other traditional communication channel.

This indirect manner of communication makes it easy to feel comfortable about sharing intimate information. Soon, people who are dating each other online will know many personal facts and details.

Online dating makes it possible to learn a lot about an individual before deciding on a real-life relationship. Direct communication works the opposite way. People experience chemistry, after which they start getting to know each other.

No embarrassment

Online dating involves smaller degree of embarrassment.

Direct communication involves more risk than online dating does. It is connected to fear of being rejected or laughed at. Everybody fears rejection, even the most extroverted and confident individuals.

Online dating is simpler. Two people know each other in the virtual reality. They have not met. Their communication focuses on personal characteristics rather than on looks and instant chemistry.

Large number of opportunities

The number of online dating opportunities is vast. People have tens of websites to choose from, each one of them having thousands of users.

Each individual can look for love across the globe, regardless of social status, occupation and location.

Online dating makes it easy for two people who would otherwise be obstructed by physical hindrances to fall in love. The pervasiveness of dating websites makes them so popular and attractive.

No need to waste time

People, who look for love online waste less time than those stuck in an inappropriate relationship.

If it fails working, an individual can simply move on. There is no need to waste time meeting, trying to make it happen and pushing forward a relationship that has no potential to develop.

Online dating provides much more and makes it possible for everyone to discover new romantic opportunities. It involves no fear and uneasiness. Online dating gives new hope to people who have suffered from rejection and dating failures in the past. All these characteristics make online dating work. In fact, it has become so popular, that it turned around the rules of the game and created dynamics of its own.

Source: Helium

Welcome to our blog!

admin — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 19:34:59 +0000

With the massive growth we’ve seen over the past year we at Head over Heels has decided that we need a better way of communicating with our users. Online dating is really taking off in a big way in South Africa (and across the globe) and we will continuously update this blog with tips and information on how to get the most out of our site. We also launched a Facebook and Twitter page and will be giving out exclusive offers and deals using these mediums. So follow us now!

Happy dating!

The headoverheels.co.za team